- Etiquette standards have changed throughout the years.
- Some etiquette experts believe that old-fashioned manners that kids aren't taught anymore should be brought back.
- Here are 11 old-fashioned manners, like standing for introductions and asking for permission, that kids just aren't taught anymore.
Etiquette and manners seem to change over the years. Many kids don't learn old-fashioned manners, like making eye contact and writing thank you notes by hand, anymore. However, some experts think these aspects of old-school etiquette should make a comeback.
"There are a few things kids should be taught that were once thought to be routine manners training," Diane Gottsman, national etiquette expert and author of "Modern Etiquette for a Better Life" told Business Insider in an email. "Etiquette skills are much more than learning when to say 'please' and 'thank you.' Courtesy requires thought and training, and kids thrive when they are given guidance and boundaries."
Below, etiquette experts weigh in on old-fashioned manners that kids aren't taught anymore.
1. Talking in person more than via technology
These days, when it comes to kids and manners, phones often seem to replace in-person conversations, Lisa Gaché, founder and CEO of Beverly Hills Manners and author of "Beverly Hills Manners: Golden Rules from the World’s Most Glamorous Zip Code," told Business Insider via email.
"Years ago, kids were taught how to speak, with emphasis on language, speech, and diction, but talk has since taken a back seat to tech," she said. "It seems face-to-face conversation and talking on the telephone are a last resort in a world where kids much prefer to communicate by typing on their tiny smartphones."
2. Addressing adults by their last names
Charles MacPherson, founder and president of Charles MacPherson Associates, a training and recruiting firm for private household staff, said that children used to always call adults by their surnames, Mr. or Mrs. X, as a form of respect.
"Today, however, our society is much more casual," he told Business Insider in an email. "Children are not often taught to do this, so it is no longer practiced."
Gaché said she agreed. “Now, it is no longer in fashion, and adults are often encouraging kids to call them by their first names as a way to express to children that they are equals,” she said.
3. Standing for introductions
When you meet someone new, do you stand up to say hello?
"In years past, little boys were taught to stand and girls were taught to stay seated," Gottsman said. "Today, it's correct to teach your children that both girls and boys stand for introductions to show respect for themselves and the other person."
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