- Relationship behaviors like texting your partner continuously may seem normal, but they can be detrimental to your union.
- Though it’s often said that your partner cannot "read your mind," many couples still assume that their partner should know everything without them saying it.
- Passive aggressiveness, though done at times to avoid confrontation, can really be harmful to your relationship.
- Ignoring the signs that make you uneasy — even if small — can cause huge rifts in your relationship if not addressed initially.
Relationships, no matter how new or how old, can be one of the most beautiful parts of life. When you’re in love with your partner, it feels as if everything around you is non-existent and that anything can be conquered simply through love. Although that could be true, when you mix in certain relationship behaviors, things can become tumultuous between you two and in turn, cause things to get unhealthy very quickly. What’s even worse is when you know the behaviors you’ve exhibited or encountered are unhealthy, but you just choose to ignore them.
According to relationship coach Brooke Genn, one of the most ignored mistakes that people make in relationships is leaving their feelings out of it.
"It may sound counterintuitive, as feelings seem to stir things up, but knowing how your partner feels is important, and identifying how you feel is equally vital," she told INSIDER. "Sharing how you're feeling from work to romance — outside times of conflict — is a key component to a thriving relationship! You'll better understand your partner, and be better understood, yourself — which leads to extra compassion and more effective communication."
Although some people have more hurtful behaviors than others when it comes to relationships, here are 10 that you should cross off your list ASAP.
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Using the silent treatment.
Though going silent after an argument with your better half may seem like the go-to response, relationship coach David Bennett of Double Trust Dating told INSIDER that this is one behavior that you should really eliminate.
"Multiple scientific studies show that the "silent treatment" harms relationships and leads to less relationship satisfaction," he said. "Avoid this deadly "treatment" and instead communicate openly and honestly with your partner."
Communication does not always mean confrontation. Opening up dialogue can help you get to the root of your problem and solve it effectively.
Assuming your partner knows everything.
Another behavior that couples should stop doing, according to Bennett, is thinking that their partner knows everything without you telling them.
"Your partner can't read your mind or know your needs unless you tell them," Bennett said. "It's not fair to assume that your partner should be able to determine your every need if you don't express them. Most people are bad at reading minds. In strong relationships, partners are honest and assertive about expressing their needs, and their partners are the same way."
A good partner won't think you're nagging just because you're expressing what you need from them and telling them how you feel.
Pulling the guilt card whenever you get upset.
Stacey Greene, author of 'Stronger Than Broken,' told INSIDER that though it provides a temporary relief to your hurt, playing the guilt card with your partner does nothing for the growth of your relationship.
"When my husband and I decided to resurrect our marriage after his affair, I spent almost a year playing the guilt card by making rude comments about the affair any time I felt I needed attention or wanted him to feel bad about his transgression," said Greene. "I now see how it hurt our healing, took longer to regain trust and honestly, was just plain rude. I now keep my mouth shut when I feel the urge to dredge up the past. We freely move forward in the beautiful relationship we are now giving ourselves permission to enjoy. Life is wonderful when you build on your future and not your past."
Although forgiveness and healing don't always happen at the same time, trying to hurt your partner with reminders of their past mistakes will not help your relationship thrive.
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